Dara's Blog

I want to commend the father in this case. Way to go and good for you! I wish more parents took a proactive role in their children's lives. Children need to learn there are consequences to their actions.

I have put this type of "shame" punishment into active use in my own child's rearing and education once, and one time was all it took. When my child was 6, she decided to walk out of a store with a book she fancied. My husband and I didn't know it until the next day when we caught her with it. We promptly had a long discussion about right vs. wrong than took her back to the store in question. We marched her up to the counter, asked for the manager and as many customers to listen as possible, then made her explain, apologize and pay for the book out of her own birthday money. Never had to deal with this sort of thing again.

Will this work in this young man's case... only time will tell. We can hope that he learned a valuable lesson - even if it's only that he shouldn't pick up things that aren't his. I agree with shabanozz that it could have turned out much worse than it did. This young man should be extremely grateful to his Dad.

Atleast he cares enough to do SOMETHING!!!

I agree with tagyurit, atleast the father cares enough to do something about it. I think the son will atleast think about the punishment before he tries to smoke weed again. Some of us have harder heads, so it may take being caught again and having a more severe punishment. I am sure Dad's senses will be on high alert mode for awhile!

This is a dad who cares and is doing what all parents should do which is teaching right and wrong. Not just a talking to but something real. It may work or not but the dad is trying. Keep up the good work and good luck!

I remember when my son was about 3-4 years old. He tried to throw a fit in a store because he wanted something that I wasn't going to buy for him. I got down on one knee, looked him in the eye and told him in a calm, cool and low voice, "Jacob, do you see these people staring at you? They think you are being silly and you are embarrassing me. I didn't raise you to act like this and if you do this one more time, I will get my purse out of the buggy and we will leave." He stopped...looked around and saw people looking at us. He dried his eyes, wiped his nose and NEVER showed his butt again in public. Public embarrassment works...at any age.